Friday, July 29, 2011

Part 2: I Giggled......Perhaps I Shouldn't Have?

Cocaine Princess here.

VALENTINA:  On the weekend cousin was dj’ing at a party and you’ll never believe who was there? Guess?

Before I even had a chance to take my next breath she spoke.

V: Senor Bling....and his new girlfriend.

And just like that my level of curiosity plummeted as if it were a stock market on the verge of  crashing.

ME: Valentina, I’m going to hang up now.


And so I did. I turned off my phone and set it to voice mail. Now it was sister’s level of curiosity that began to rise and the look on her face definitely showed it.

A: Why did you hang up on her?

I failed to give her a reply because I was in the middle of counting when she asked. You see, I know how my best friend operates and therefore I knew within the next 30 seconds she would try to make another attempt to contact me.

..........12, 13, 14.......18......22

22 seconds. That’s how long it took for the phone to ring.....sister’s phone that is. It was lying right on top of her open handbag in the empty chair next to her. She picked it up, answered it and passed the phone over to me.

A: It's for you my darling.

Taking it from her I put the phone to my ear and didn’t say a word. After a few seconds the person on the other line spoke:

VALENTINA: I know you’re there. I can hear you breathing.

I decided to be a little cheeky.

ME: Valentina, is that you? Hey, long time no hear. What’s up?

VALENTINA: What’s up?! I can’t believe you hung up on me!

ME: What did you expect? You know the rules. That topic is off limits.

VALENTINA: I thought you might be interested in knowing about his love life.

I was damn near speechless. Unfortunately experiencing voice loss is something Valentina has yet to experience. Not that it would have stopped her seeing how she would find some other method of communicating. Eventually I was able to get my words out.

ME: Have you lost your mind-- why would you think that?

VALENTINA: I was only giving you an update of what was happening with things-- you know keeping you in the loop.

ME: Do me a favor and keep me out of the loop when it comes to that, okay?


ME: Listen very carefully- I don’t care. He can do whatever the hell he wants.

VALENTINA: Can I just say one more thing?

ME: Is it about whose name shall not be mentioned?


My God, it was like she didn't hear one word that came out of my mouth.


ME: Then my answer is no.

VALENTINA: Alright, I won’t tell you........I’ll call you later on tonight. Daddy sends his love and told me to tell you he misses his Colombian Doll madly.

ME: I miss him too. Send him my love along with hugs and kisses. 

VALENTINA: Before I forget-

Even though I specifically told her NO, Valentina decided to tell me what exactly that “one more thing” was. She said it very rapidly-- like it was all one really big long word, and then hung up:

VALENTINA: Senor-Bling’s-girlfriend-was-asking-questions-about-you-and-she-wanted-to-know-more-about-you-talk-to-you-soon-Princesa-love-you.

I gotta hand it to her, well played. I gave sister her phone back.

A: Do I dare even ask what that conversation was all about?

ME: Trust me when I say it was nothing.

“A” chuckled.

A: Child, nothing always means something.

And so I told her.

A: Why would she tell you that?

ME: She was keeping me "in the loop."

For dramatic effect I did the whole air quote thing. I let out a sigh.

ME: Looking back now I can never figure out why I ever dated him. I can't come up with not even one sane answer.  

Sister reached across the table and gently held my hand. 

A: Aren’t you always the one who says everything happens for a reason?

It’s true. I’ve always felt that things happen for a reason and there's some sort of hidden lesson or purpose in every circumstance. I believe nothing happens by chance or luck nor do I believe in coincidences. Scoff if you must and that's okay, we're all entitled to our opinion.

Everything happens for a reason. I realize that's not the most comforting phrase a person likes to hear nor does it bring piece of mind especially when something occurs that makes you feel angry, hurt, confused or even leaves you with a gaping hole in your heart, and you’re left asking:
“Why did that have to happen?

I also happen to believe people come into our lives and/or cross our paths for a reason. These individuals whether their presence is for a short amount of time or for the long haul can either leave their eternal footprints on our hearts, or they can leave us feeling as I stated above: angry, hurt, confused or with a gaping hole. Regardless of how they make us feel we can't help but sometimes wonder, “Why were they brought into our lives?”
More than often we don’t receive the answers to our questions right away which can be frustrating. Waiting is always the hardest part, isn't it? They come to us later on when we begin to see the bigger picture much clearer and it’s only then we realize had it not been for those certain things or for those certain people it wouldn’t have brought me to where I am today, or shaped me into the person that I am today. Hmm, perhaps that's why things turned out the way they did. We think, “Yeah, it all makes sense now.....another piece of the puzzle.....all the dots connect.” Lessons are learned, messages are received and when we do arrive at the point in our lives we feel a sense of balance. 

As of this moment there are a few unanswered questions I'm still awaiting answers for and when the time is right I know I'll receive them, and more importantly I'll hopefully understand why.

To be Continued.... 


My loyal and dear readers it's finally Friday. Are you doing your Happy Dance? I'll be doing mine later..... To be exact it'll be a moment before I begin my work out.

For us up here it's the Long Holiday Weekend! Double Happy Dance!!

Whatever your plans are have a tremendous last weekend of July.~x

Cocaine Princess


Anonymous said...

Latina-- thought provoking post for a Fri. I need another cafe cubano after reading this.

I hear what you are saying-- it's about the big picture. I think certain people come into our lives for certain reasons. I've experienced things that prove to me that some of my friends came into my life to help me.

Anonymous said...

I have always believed that we hold our future in our hands but sometimes events occur that puts my belief in question.

Red Shoes said...

Great post... I especially enjoyed the last part of it... where you talked of people coming into our lives for reasons... nothing is really a result of chance... and how things happen for a reason.

I'm not sure why I've been writing a great deal on this topic... I'm sure there is something I am needing to learn.

Thank you for your comment on yesterday's post. I always like to read what your thoughts are... I will look later today for that photo you mentioned.

Have a great weekend...



Cocaine Princess said...

Red Shoes at 10:44,
Thank you. I'm glad you enjoyed this post.

Lotus07 said...

Did I miss something in this whole blog? Where did the 'giggle' reference come in?

Cocaine Princess said...

Lotus at 2:07,
You didn't miss anything. I'm slowly getting to the "giggle" reference. Stay tuned.

Anonymous said...

people cross our paths definitely for a specific purpose.

i find during the most unbearable times in our lives we realize just how strong we are.

Anonymous said...

There are two schools of thought-

1. Sometimes things do happen for no reason or explanation, on the other hand, things can happen for a reason too, its a bit of both. But, the things that do happen for a reason, IMHO are tied in with destiny and fate.

2. Everything has a cause, but not necessarily a purpose.

Anonymous said...

History is full of tragic events-- the atrocities of World War II, Oklahoma bombing, 9/11, Colombine, Norway Massacre....

What are the reasons behind these events?

On the other hand there is something to be said and think about when you hear its all about the big picture......

This is a tricky one and perhaps this is why life is so complex.

As for the people we encounter-- who knows, maybe it is all about the big picture--- like I said,
life is complex.

Anonymous said...

@5:24-- No.2-- logical fallacy

Anonymous said...

@5:24-- Everything has a cause-- but not necessarily a purpose.

-That makes no sense.

KrippledWarrior said...

reading this felt a little like eaves dropping. Well written.

Cocaine Princess said...

Krippled Warrior at 8:59,
Thank you.

elisecrets said...

There's a name I haven't heard in a while...

If you don't mind me saying so, the way you react everytime Valentina brings up Sinor Bling, makes me think you are nowhere near over him.

What's the full story, Princess?


ps: Valentina is a gem isn't she! ;)

Cocaine Princess said...

elisecrets at 6:14,

I could see how it could come off that way but truly, there's nothing there. The topic of him is utter annoyances

Yes. Valentina is a gem- one of a kind gem!!

The Constant Complainer said...

This was interesting. I don't think I've read a post on one of your ex-men in a while.

It drives me crazy when my friends act like that - I tell them not to share the details and they do it anyway. Some people are just like that - I call it being drama-laced.

And it is true, things happen for a reason or sometimes they just happen. In my case, I always say they happen when I'm least expecting it. LOL.

It's easy in hindsight to question why you dated someone. But you probably felt it was the right move and that's ok. Live and learn my dear!