Thursday, February 14, 2013

Straight From The Heart

Cocaine Princess here. 

For the past week or so I pondered and pondered what to post on what is considered the most romantic day on the calendar year, until one night I was channel surfing and came across a documentary titled “God Is The Bigger Elvis.” After watching it I decided it would make a good entry for February 14th. You're probably thinking, God? Elvis? How does this relate to that naked chubby angel and his arrow of love? Well, in some way it does because if anything this is a documentary about an unusual love story. The 40 minute Academy Award Nominated for best documentary attempts to explain why former Hollywood actress Dolores Hart who co~starred with Elvis Presley in the 1957 film “Loving You,” left Hollywood at age 24 to become a cloistered Benedictine nun-- a decision that stunned friends, fans and most notably her fiancé. 

Dolores Hart (pictured above) is now the Mother Prioress of the Abbey of Regina Laudis in Bethlehem, Connecticut. She explained she was in New York when exhaustion and fatigue set in after doing nightly shows on Broadway. It was during this time her friend suggested she head to the Abbey for the weekend to relax. At first she hesitated, being surrounded by nuns was the last place she’d ever want to be but went anyways. Little did she know that trip would change her life for it was there she felt more at peace than ever. At one point during her stay Dolores questioned the Reverend Mother if perhaps being a nun was her calling? Reverend Mother replied it wasn’t and told her to return to Hollywood. 

-Dolores Hart with George Hamilton (Where The Boys Are)

Returning to the film industry, Dolores continued making films with some of Hollywood’s A-listers: Marlon Brando, George Peppard, Montgomery Clift and once more with Elvis Presley in “King Creole.” She became engaged to architect Don Robinson who makes an appearance in the documentary. He says: “From the moment I met her I knew I could relax with her and after dinner on our first date I proposed.” Dolores responded she needed time with her answer and Don replied that she could take all time she needed for he would always wait for her. Although eventually she said yes, Dolores’ still had unresolved feelings for the religious life. When asked if she prayed to get the lead with Elvis, she answers wearing her nun's habit which are the only clothes she possesses to this day, “You bet your sweet I did.”  

As wedding preparations began, Dolores received a letter from the Abbey asking if she was still interested in becoming a nun and if so there was an opening. That same evening as Don and her were heading out to an engagement party being thrown in their honor she dropped a bombshell to her fiancé when asked why she’d been so distant with him all day. The look on Don’s face as he re-tells the story of that night in the documentary is heartbreaking that one can’t help but feel a lump in their throat. With tears in her eyes Mother Prioress (Dolores) says upon remembering that night, “How do you explain God? How do you explain love?” 

So what made this actress who was billed as the next Grace Kelly leave Hollywood and her fiancé for the cloistered life of a nun? Mother Prioress says, “Because of the capacity it offered for true communion with God.”

Sometimes we forget that nuns were once regular people before they made the decision to devote their lives to God. The use of archival footage and photos, tracing the course of several decades, makes you realize that all of the nuns at the Abbey were once very much in the same position as Dolores. Director Rebecca Cammisa and producer Julie Anderson briefly speak to another nun, Laura Adshead, jet-set society girl and the ex-girlfriend to British PM David Cameron who left it all to surrender herself to God. Another nun tells the reason for leaving her spouse was so she could make a spousal commitment to God instead.

What’s interesting is all the nuns on camera said the same thing, they all felt it was their calling. Life inside the Abbey is also shown and I don't think I have to tell you the monastic life is not for this Princess. Aside from the one obvious big thing, you must cut your hair, sing hymns 7 times a day on top of the 3 periods of silence each day, listen and offer hope and faith to those who are in need of it no matter how bad of a day you’re having and if you happen to be having a bad day, there’s no much you can do other than pray. 

It was her continued communication with her ex~fiancé Don Robinson that acted as a bridge between her former life and the one she leads now. Up until his death in November 2011 for the past 47 years Don made frequent visits to the Abbey. He says on camera he never married and admits it’s because he never found anyone like Dolores. “There’s no one that can ever replace her.”  

There's an intense moment towards the end when Dolores and Don are walking hand in hand in the garden of the abbey and although she says she has found something of peace there's the look of anguish on her face, perhaps she still struggles between the marriage of Christ and that of marriage to man or maybe deep inside she hasn’t gotten over Don, after all True Love Never Dies.

If you're interested in watching the documentary click here.

The song ♥Love Me Tender♥ from the film “Loving You”


How do you explain love? Is it something that comes walking in and attacks you without any warning? How do you put into words the feeling love brings you? I've always believed love is something that can't be explained or put into words. You see, love is something you feel and some feelings are impossible to describe.  

My lovelies, for those of you with a Valentine~
Love, Kiss & Embrace Your Beloved.
Get Naked & Misbehave, Not Just Today But Everyday.
Whatever You Do & However You Celebrate This Day, Make Sure It
Come Straight From The Heart.

For any lonely soul who thinks Cupid has forgotten about them, no, dear Cupid hasn't forgotten about you. For every lock there is a key and when the time is right that key will unlock your heart but only Cupid knows when. See, the angel of love operates on the universe’s time, so just hold on. 

Just as I pondered what to post today I couldn't decide what song to post. So many songs were running though my mind: Rhianna's song Diamonds, Locked Out of Heaven by Bruno Mars, Arms by Christina Perri, Whitesnake's Is It Love or something from Madonna or Duran Duran.....the list kept just growing. In the end I went with my heart's choice, my all time favorite Euro song. I love the lyrics and the music, I love the way she sings it and I love dancing to it.

And finally~

My loyal and dear readers, Happy Valentine's Day. 
Whatever your plans are have a loving weekend. ~x

Cocaine Princess


Red Shoes said...

I LOVE this post!!

I don't understand Religion...

I don't understand things that are Religious...

... but if Religion speaks to someone, and it brings them the Peace, Comfort, and Solitude that person desires, who is to say it's wrong.

Happy Valentine's Day to you...


Cocaine Princess said...

Red Shoes at 8:27,
So glad you like this post, thank you so much.

I totally agree with you, if it brings peace to a person.....

Happy Valentine's Day, Shoes.

Miss Stormy Marples said...


This touches me in so many ways.

February 2012, I was dating a man and I could tell and he could tell we weren't meant to be boyfriend/girlfriend. I made the comment to him one night in the car that sometimes I felt like I needed to go become a nun because I did want total peace and I have never never never met anyone yet that I feel is my soulmate to date.

I am very spiritual. So in my mind maybe God is my husband so to speak.

He made the comment to me. No. You do not need to be a nun. Not meaning it in a mean way. He commented u belong to God but I do believe he wants u to be with a man and not alone because he commented that I was a good companion.

I have often thought about the peacefulness of being in a convent. However, at this time, I can say it is not my calling. Not at this moment anyway. Who knows what happens in our lifetime. Lately, I have had a few men whom have gotten very close to me in a non-intimate way or I have not allowed it to go there. However, men are very special creatures. I talked with Teddy Bear cop last night until 1:30 a.m. this morning. He came to visit me up at the Coffeehouse. I haven't really seen him but once in the last 8 weeks. Just cathcing up with him and things have happened in both our lives lately. He also made a few comments about "J" as he bumped into us that night when "J" and I went to another Coffeehouse about two weeks ago I suppose it was. I do need men in my life. However, right now I do not want them in a boyfriend capacity. Just a friend capacity. I sincerely mean that--

But at one point, I did entertain the thought of becoming a nun

Graham Ettridge said...


What a truly endearing post. A post that I read through several times as the message inside was such a heart-warming and touching one.

Alas I do fall into the "lonely soul" category at the moment, but I guess it is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all. I'm staying positive and hope that Cupid hasn't disappeared on me but instead has just taken an extended! However, we must not forget that there are some good things about being single, and one of them is waking up on a Saturday morning and thinking "What shall I do today?" and then realising that the answer is "I can do absolutely anything I want!".

Love is...
Something that cannot be described,
It just "is";
It cannot be controlled,
But it does need to be cherished.

And don't worry, I have no firm plans of becoming a nun at any point soon ;)

Wishing you a truly wonderful weekend,

Graham x

Cocaine Princess said...

Graham at 1:19.
Thank you so much-- glad you enjoyed reading my post. If it's any consolation I'm in the "lonely soul" category too!

Indeed love needs to be cherished.

Have a wonderful weekend yourself.